When Is It Time To Seek Counselling?
When anxiety, worry, or fear interferes with regular activities.
When feelings of guilt persist and don’t yield to confession and the usual spiritual disciplines.
When one feels perpetually like a victim.
When anger seems uncontrollable.
When a cluster of symptoms indicate stress-related concerns for which a physician can find no organic cause: frequent headaches, palpitations, shortness of breath, agitation, insomnia, loss of concentration.
When reactions to loss are prolonged or unusual – typically, the grief process is very difficult during the first year, but indications of a renewed sense of meaning and effectiveness should begin manifesting themselves.
When behaviours which conflict with accepted beliefs and values become uncontrollable.
When moods become depressive or euphoric to the point of interfering with appropriate functioning or behaviour.
When routine problem solving and the challenges of life seem overwhelming.
When a traumatic event and/or abuse have been experienced or witnessed, whether in childhood or in adulthood.
When there is a pattern of conflictual or failed relationships at home, work, or church.
BEFORE getting married, particularly in the case of remarriage of one or both partners, and ESPECIALLY if children are involved.
When it is sensed that there is a need for deeper intimacy which is not currently being met in a marriage relationship.
When outstanding issues in a marriage continue to undermine an effective couple ministry as parents or in any other roles.
When communication in a relationship becomes a vehicle for argument and hostility rather than for problem solving and affirmation.
When normal life stages or unexpected events present greater than anticipated strain on the couple relationship: birth of a child, job loss or promotion, retirement, infertility, major trauma or illness.
When the pressures of ministry threaten a sense of priorities within the couple and family relationships.
When a partner or family member exhibits signs of mental illness.
When the typical way in which discipline is handled within the family is not working, or seems only to contribute to increased rebellion or withdrawal.
When a sudden change or regression occurs in behaviour: bedwetting, stuttering, nightmares, changes in appetite or sleep patterns, complaints to avoid engaging in activities previously enjoyed.